Couple/Intimate relationships

How to maintain a long-term intimate relationships? Is there a recipe to follow for a happy marriage/ couple relationship?

My answer is definitely yes!

Firstly, u two must invest same amount of time, energy for the relationship.

Secondly, check out your type and your partner’s 16-personalities. So that u can learn to understand and know better yourself and your loved one. Then u two have a better chance to survive the hardships.

Thirdly, u two must have open communication, being honest with each other. Learn how to express your needs and wants. Overly compromised will only take u to resentments and contempts. Contempts is the only key factors that contribute to all failed relationships (research-based findings). It is not EMA( a third party in the relationship), not loss of trust, not loss of interest, or out of love. The only factor that lead to the end of an intimate relationship is contempt and resentment.

Fourthly, u two must learn to have some hard conversations, frictions and conflicts are unavoidable. Just face it and ACCEPT it!

Because deceptions and denial are the start of the end of a relationship.

Fifthly, u two must express your affections to each others regularly. If there is only commitment and obligations in the relationship, without love and desire, u have a big problem in your relationship.

Sixthly, even if u and your partner could follow the 1st to 5th instructions, there is still a slight chance that u two might not be able to grow old together. Since life is full of uncertainty, people might change, esp. when there is mental illness, physical illness involved.

Give yourself and your partner space, hold some spaces for each other. Sometimes relationships come and go, it’s a natural progression in life. Be kind to each other, even things don’t work out the way u planned.

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