📝3 key components of intimate relationships or what we so called “Perfect Match”

- 🩵Intellectual compatibility

- 🧡Emotional compatibility

- 🩷Physical & sexual compatibility

1. Intellectual doesn’t equal to IQ. IQ is a measure of certain abilities, including verbal ability, information processing speed, working memory, problem solving capacities, etc, while intellect is a measure of interest in abstract ideas and creativity.

Intellectual compatibility means u and your partner have a similar level of Openness (from Big Five personality theory) in terms of mindset, similar values, aesthetics and creativity. If you and your partner have huge gaps of openness, according to scientific researches over the past 50 years, this relationship is unlikely to be long-lasting. There are/will be lots of conflicts, stress and pain.

2. Emotional compatibility means u and your partner have similar level of emotional intelligence (EQ) and maturity. EQ consists of two parts: level of emotional self-awareness and awareness of others (empathy).

Maturity is the ability to endure hardships and challenges in life without being volatile. Higher EQ people belong with higher EQ people. Lower EQ people go with lower EQ people. Same goes with maturity.

3. Physical and sexual compatibility is important but not crucial for long term relationships. Thus if u find your partner physically unattractive, it doesn’t mean your marriage/relationship is doomed to fail. It can still work, but it is going to be partnership, u two are just not deeply connected couples/soulmates.

Last but not least, timing is also crucial in meeting the right partner because people's circumstances, priorities, and emotional readiness can greatly influence their ability to form a successful and fulfilling relationship.

There is “perfect match” existed but oftentimes it is not what u think and expected. It takes lots of team efforts, dedication, patience and understanding to make an intimate relationship work.