INFP aka Dreamer

Cognitive functions:

Fi-Hero

Ne-Parent

Si-Child

Te-Inferior

Interaction styles: Informative, responding and control (background type)

Temperaments: Abstract, affiliative, interest, (idealist type)

Characteristics:

• Fi-hero means infps hold high moral standards for themselves and for others.

• Ne-parent means they are responsible pathfinders. They are pretty good at mapping out others future.

• Si-child means they are powerful long-term memory and they are dutiful and responsible to their lives but with a little bit naive.

• Te-inferior means they value reputations, and are afraid of hurting them  and losing face.

• They are future thinkers, always look for the ideal situation/solution.

• They like philosophy, they want to seek for the true meaning of life.

• Usually they have a utopia in their mind, which is a pure, pain-free, peaceful, sins-free, heaven-like place.  They would try to bring his utopia to the world. But often got burnt by the cruel reality.

• Since they are background type, they like being alone and hiding themselves. They get recharged after long period of solitude  and doing the things they enjoy, depends on their interests (eg. reading philosophical books, writing their philosophy, building their toy models etc.)

• Since they have Se-trickster, they are not aware of the physical environment, so they might be forgetful, for example they lost their personal belongings frequently, got lost in new places, unaware of their appearances etc.

• Ti-demon means they lack of logical thinking skills. This is dangerous, without logical and critical thinking, they are prone to making rush and irrational important decisions/life choices.

INTJ (Strategist)

Cognitive function:

Ni-Hero

Te-Parent

Fi-Child

Se-Inferior

(Ni: Willpower; Te: Statistics/ Collective wisdom; Fi: Feeling, morals; Se: short-term memory, experience based)

Interaction style: Finishers (direct, responding and movement)

Temperament: NT, aka intellectual

4 sides of mind:

Ego: INTJ

Unconscious/Shadow: ENTP (Ne, Ti, Fe, Si)

Subconscious: ESFP (Se, Fi, Te, Ni)

Super ego: ISFJ (Si, Fe, Ti, Ne)

Characteristics:

1. Strong willpower: once he/she decides to do something, they are unmovable.

2. They are Intellectuals: they are good at observing patterns, discovering inconsistencies, which makes them very skilful chess players, future planners, masterminds and back seats leaders.

3. Feeling matters to them: they are somehow lack of empathy (Fe: empathy as their trickster function), but don’t worry they have moral standards.

4. Poor long-term memory (Si as their demon function): They can be very forgetful, ie, they are not good at reciting, dictations, etc. They also hate duties and obligations.

5. They are fast learners, high IQ, usually high EQ as well. But they can be very calculated and manipulative. Guys be careful! 😂

6. One of the rarest personality types, estimated less than 1% of the population.

7. They are very efficient, and be able to juggle a lot of tasks at once, and finish them on time. They are usually work smart, play hard. Maintain work-life balance in the most efficient way.

8. They put themselves first, “Me time” is very important to them. They choose to be lone wolves, but they can also be  very sociable, depends on the situations and whether he is interested in the people he interacted with.

9. They are usually hypochondriac: they often gets sick, and since they like studying and doing their own researches, they tend to google everything when he got sick. After that, they often come up with a conclusion that he/she is vulnerable to illness and is going to die early.

放下的力量 the power of letting go

“Let go” 這個詞彙在心理衞生，mental health非常流行，所以我說說什麼是Let go，還有怎樣才可以做得到let go？

Let go, aka 放下，是一個心理歷程，不是一時三刻想做就做得到的過程。這個過程的長短因人而異，有些人快、有些人慢，它就像grieving（悲傷與失落）；Grieving 的過程也是漫長，速度也因人而異，一個人如果能夠let go, grieving復原的速度也會比較快。

在我的個案當中，我看到走不出來、let go 有很大困難的人，都有以下幾個共同點：1）他們都是比較感性的人；2）他們都是關係取向的人（affiliative) ；3）他們的EQ比較弱，常需要別人的認同；4）他們本身就是缺乏安全感的人。

因此，我想在這裡分享幾個建議給他們；首先，要學習理性、邏輯思維，向Ti users 多多學習，ie. INTP, ENTP, ISTP, ESTP, INFJ etc.

第二，學習不要那麼在意別人的眼光，人際關係是重要，但沒有比自己的需要重要，要practices self-love；一個人重視別人多於自己，即他不夠愛自己，那他怎樣才可以放下別人？

第三，要提升自己的EQ，訓練自己的抗壓性。那到底怎樣才能提升呢？我們平常可以做些什麼來訓練自己？這個問題看起來很複雜，其實很簡單；

1）你可以找EQ很高、或者是生活曾受到很大挫折，但現在活得很自在的人聊天，跟他們多相處，觀察他們在生活中的智慧，他們通常都很會跟別人溝通，也很懂得跟別人建立健康的界線。

2）訓練自己處理問題的能力，因為如果你擁有了獨立自主的能力，就不會依賴別人，自己一個人活得好的話，比較容易可以接受生命中的挑戰跟困境，也比較容易let go, 放下別人、放下自己、放下負面的情緒。

第四，要提升自己的自信心。沒有安全感的人，通常自信心都相對較低。培養自己自信心的方法有很多，我簡單舉幾個例子：

1）培養自己的興趣，變成自己最擅長的領域，從而發揮自己的影響力。

2）學習self-love, self-compassion，待自己好一點，每天為自己製造Me Time.